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YourTango "How Do YOU Define Cheating?" Survey 2017
1.
What gender do you self-identify with the most?
Male
Female
Other
2.
In what country do you currently reside?
United States
Other (please specify)
3.
In which region of the United States do you live?
1. New England (Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont, Massachusetts, Rhode Island, Connecticut)
2. Middle Atlantic (New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania)
3. East North Central (Ohio, Indiana, Illinois, Michigan, Wisconsin)
4. West North Central (Minnesota, Iowa, Missouri, North Dakota, South Dakota, Nebraska, Kansas)
5. South Atlantic (Delaware, Maryland, District of Columbia, Virginia, West Virginia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Georgia, Florida)
6. East South Central (Kentucky, Tennessee, Alabama, Mississippi)
7. West South Central (Arkansas, Louisiana, Oklahoma, Texas)
8. Mountain (Montana, Idaho, Wyoming, Colorado, New Mexico, Arizona, Utah, Nevada)
9. Pacific (Washington, Oregon, California, Alaska, Hawaii)
4.
What is your age?
18-24
25-30
31-40
41-50
51-60
60-75
76+
5.
What is your relationship status?
Single and looking
It’s complicated
Dating someone
Living together
Married
Single and not currently looking
6.
Which statement best describes your opinion of “open relationships”?
They’re immoral.
They work for some people but not others.
They are the ideal (monogamy is hard!)
Great in theory, but usually don’t work.
I wish I knew more about them.
No opinion or don’t care.
7.
How important are monogamous relationships to you?
Very important.
Somewhat important.
Slightly important.
Not important at all.
8.
How often do you get “strong butterflies in your stomach” or feel excited at the idea of flirting with someone else?
Every week.
Once a month.
Maybe a few times a year.
Once a year.
It’s been years.
I can’t even remember.
9.
Is it possible to be 'truly in love' with more than one person at a time?
Yes
No
10.
Which statement best describes your understanding of why people cheat rather than leave a spouse/partner?
They love their partner, but are looking for more sexual fulfillment.
They love their partner, but are looking for more emotional fulfillment.
They want to keep their family together.
They’re afraid of leaving their partner.
They want to use the affair to end their relationship/marriage.
They find it exciting.
11.
What is more damaging to a marriage or long-term relationship – a physical affair or an emotional affair?
Physical affair
Emotional affair
12.
Which of these actions do you think fall under the definition of "cheating," if you’re in a committed relationship? (Please check all that apply.)
Fantasizing about another person.
Flirting with another person where there’s sexual innuendo.
Browsing dating websites.
Interacting with other people on a dating website.
Sexting with another person.
Kissing another person.
Holding hands or other non-sexual physical contact.
Sexual intercourse.
All of the above.
13.
In your opinion, when does “cheating” begin?
When you start keeping secrets from your significant other.
When you admit romantic/emotional feelings for someone outside of your relationship.
When you have physical/sexual contact with someone outside of your relationship.
14.
I am sexually fulfilled in my current relationship.
Strongly agree.
Agree.
Neutral.
Disagree.
Strongly disagree.
15.
I am emotionally fulfilled in my current relationship.
Strongly agree.
Agree.
Neutral.
Disagree.
Strongly disagree.
16.
My partner is emotionally fulfilled in our relationship.
Strongly agree.
Agree.
Neutral.
Disagree.
Strongly disagree.
17.
My partner is sexually fulfilled in our relationship.
Strongly agree.
Agree.
Neutral.
Disagree.
Strongly disagree.
18.
Cheating is a forgivable offense:
Yes
No
19.
If you have been tempted to cheat in the past, but have not done so, what best describes your main reason for not cheating?
Love.
Morals.
Religious objections.
Fear.
Trust.
Lack of options.
Lack of interest.
Other (please specify)
20.
Sometimes I think about cheating on my partner.
Yes
No
21.
How important is regular, mutually satisfying sex to a happy, lasting relationship?
Very important
Important
Somewhat important
Not important
22.
In an ideal world, how often would you have sex with your partner?
Every day
Multiple times a week
Once a week
Once a month
Once every few months
Never or almost never.
23.
In reality, how often do you have sex with your partner?
Every day
Multiple times a week
Once a week
Once a month
Once every few months
Never or almost never
24.
How open are you to the idea of an open relationship or a non-traditional relationship? (Swinging, polyamory, 3-way sex, open relationship, etc.)
I’m there already! Waiting for everyone else to keep up.
Not at all.
I admit that I am curious.
Have tried and wasn’t for me.
I'd be into ________ (please specify)
25.
How would you pursue a side relationship if you were already in a committed relationship but unhappy?
Approach someone I already know as a friend
Approach someone from work or school
Find someone online using social media
Meeting a stranger at a bar or on a trip
Sign-up for an anonymous dating site/app
Other (please specify)
26.
Do you keep secrets from your partner?
No.
Rarely.
Yes, but they’re small.
Yes, and they’re big.
27.
Is it OK to keep secrets from a spouse/significant other to protect their feelings or preserve the relationship?
Yes.
No.
28.
Do you think it is easier or harder for women to find sexual satisfaction in a long-term relationship/marriage than men?
Harder for men
Harder for women
Same degree of difficulty
29.
If you could have the best sex of your life outside of your relationship and your partner/spouse would NEVER find out about it, would you do it?
Yes
No
30.
If given the same choice, do you think your partner/spouse would do it?
Yes
No
31.
Have you been cheated on?
Yes, and it destroyed our relationship.
Yes, and we recovered from it (or are trying to recover from it).
Yes, but I found out after the relationship was over.
Not that I know of.
32.
Have you ever cheated on a partner?
Yes, and it was awesome.
Yes, and I regret it.
No, but came close.
No.
33.
Would you like to cheat on your partner? (which answer matches best)
Yes, because I’m bored.
Yes, because I don’t feel valued.
Yes, because we don’t have satisfying sex (frequency or type).
Yes, because I feel lonely.
Yes, because I am angry at my partner.
Yes, because I sometimes meet other people that are really attractive.
Yes, but other reason (please explain).
Yes, but I never would.
No.
34.
If you cheated on someone or you would like to cheat, why? What are/were you looking for and what happened?
35.
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