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Growing up in Public 1121

Devorah Heitner, the author of Screenwise, is researching the experiences of young people growing up and coming of age in the digital age with social media and Internet search. Parents and caregivers are asked a series of questions about their perspectives on kids' lives at school, at home, and with friends.

Your anecdotes may be quoted in the book but they will be anonymous. Parents' stories are crucial for helping readers understand the experiences of supporting kids growing up in the digital age.
1.Before we begin, we have a few questions about you. Are you...?(Required.)
2.When were you born?(Required.)
3.Do you consider yourself...?(Required.)
4.Do you feel growing up today is harder or easier for your kid for you?(Required.)
5.Kids today have a "digital footprint" on the Internet. Parents may post about them, they may post about themselves. They are doing more of their growing up "in public." What, if anything,  concerns you in terms of your kids/students growing up "in public?"(Required.)
6.Do any parents you know track their teens' location on Life 360 or Find My Phone or another geo-tracker ?
7.Do you think that parents tracking their teens' location on Life 360 or Find My Phone is appropriate?
8.If you track or follow (or don't), please say why and how it is going.
9.As a parent, I should have access to all my child/ teen's  social media passwords.

10.I should be following my kid/kids on social media.(Required.)
11.It's appropriate for me to be reading their text messages.(Required.)
12.Parents should have complete access to everything on kids' phones and other digital devices.
13.How often do you review your child's educational progress/grades online?

(Required.)
14.How often does your child look at the app?
15.How has using the app affected you, your child and/or your parent/child relationship?  Tell me a story about your experiences with the app.
16.In your household, are tweens/teens using (check all that apply?)

17.If your child uses social media, does social media affect the way your child/children represents themselves to the world (appearance, clothing, etc)?
18.Do you feel that the way your child present themself on social media is an accurate reflection of who they are? How so?
19.From what you see, is getting more likes, comments, or followers important to your child?
20.Why do you think your child use social media? What makes it compelling?  Or not if they don't use.
21.My child has been upset with me because I posted a picture on social media they didn't want to be posted.
22.What are some negative consequences child have faced in your community from something they posted in social media?(Required.)
23.My child has talked about sexting happening in their community or friend group.
24.I believe that what  my child posts on Instagram, Snapchat or Youtube could affect their college admission chances.

(Required.)
25.If your child had a learning disability, would you be comfortable with you or them posting about it online?(Required.)
26.If your child had a mental health diagnosis, would you be comfortable with you or them posting about it online?(Required.)
27.Have you ever seen a parent post something about their child that you would never post?
28.Would you be open to have a conversation about your kid/s experience with growing up "in public" with social media and sharing?

If yes, please put your contact information below.

You can be anonymous in the book.
29.Thank you much for answering these questions and sharing your experiences with us. We appreciate your time! Your answers will help other parents.